I grew up knowing that if I did something I shouldn't have done at my friend's home, that that parent was going to be placing a phone call to my mother. It wasn't often that happened but I'd run home as fast as I could if it did.
I have similar expectations that when I'm a mom and I will make that known to my kids and their friends, that if you do something you know would be unacceptable in your own home, you won't be welcomed in mine and a phone call will be placed to your parent(s).
Obviously, I am not going to discipline a child who is not mine the same way I would discipline my own. However, if you're dropping your kid off at my home for a play date, I would think that you expect me to be the adult/parent in your stead and make sure nothing happens to your baby. That would extend into time-outs or even what I like to refer to as "__ minutes in space". Adjusting the time spent based on the age of the child. I will then explain what is acceptable in MY house and that a conversation will be had with said kid's parent(s).
It's far too often that we talk the talk when it comes to consequences but don't follow through with them. If my kid hits yours and you don't separate the two and call me, then you're enabling that behavior. Now my kid feels he or she can get away with things in your house.
What is your take on this?
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